Ukuwela eluthandweni ngamava omlingo anokusishiya siziva sichulumancile kwaye sisengozini. Luhambo olusithatha kwi-rollercoaster yeemvakalelo, ukusuka kulonwabo lonxibelelwano olutsha ukuya kubunzulu bentliziyo. Ukutyhubela imbali, ababhali, iimbongi nezithandi zobulumko ziye zazama ukubamba umongo wale mvakalelo intsonkothileyo nenzulu ngamazwi azo. Kweli nqaku, siye saqulunqa ingqokelela yeengcaphuno ezithandekayo ezivakalisa kakuhle uvuyo kunye neentlungu zokuthandana.
'Uthando lufana nomoya, awukwazi ukulubona kodwa uyaluva.' - Nicholas Sparks
La mazwi avela kumbhali odumileyo uNicholas Sparks asikhumbuza ukuba uthando lungamandla angabonakaliyo angena kuzo zonke iinkalo zobuntu bethu. Yimvakalelo engenakuchazwa okanye ilungelelaniswe, kodwa kunoko, yinto esiyiva nzulu ngaphakathi kwemiphefumlo yethu. Xa siwela eluthandweni, siqhelana nezona zandla zifihlakeleyo kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye siyakwazi ukubona ubukho bothando nangona lungabonakali ngeso lenyama.
Bona kwakho: Ukudala imigibe yeempukane eSebenzayo-Yithi ndlela ntle kwizinambuzane eziNyucu kwaye wonwabele ikhaya elingenaBuzz
umqondiso wakho kwimithetho yakho unomona ngawe
'Uyazi ukuba usemathandweni xa ungakwazi ukulala ngenxa yokuba inyaniso ekugqibeleni ingcono kunamaphupha akho.' - UGqr Seuss
Bona kwakho: Iincoko ezichukumisayo kunye neemvakalelo ezitshintshwa ngoomama nabantwana
UGqr. Seuss, umbhali wabantwana abathandekayo, ubamba undoqo wokuthandana ngala mazwi asuka entliziyweni. Xa sisemathandweni, sihlala sizifumanisa siphupha emini ngesithandwa sethu, sicinga ngekamva kunye elihle kakhulu kunayo nayiphi na into ebesinokuyicinga. Uthando lunamandla okudlula awona maphupha ethu angalawulekiyo kunye nokudala ubunyani obungaphaya kwayo nantoni na ebesinokuyithemba.
Bona kwakho: Iincoko ezichukumisayo kunye neemvakalelo ezitshintshwa ngoomama nabantwana
'Uthando alwenzi ihlabathi lijikeleze. Uthando lolona hambo lufanelekileyo.' - UFranklin P. Jones
Esi sicatshulwa sikaFranklin P. Jones sisikhumbuza ukuba uthando aluyiyo nje imvakalelo edlulayo, kodwa kunoko, yeyona nto ibalulekileyo yobomi ngokwabo. Uthando lusinika amandla okoyisa imiceli mngeni ubomi obuphosa indlela yethu kwaye yenze uhambo lube nexabiso. Kungothando ukuba sikwazi ukufumana intsingiselo kunye nenjongo ebomini bethu, kwaye kungothando ukuba sikwazi ukufumana ulonwabo lokwenyani kunye nokwaneliseka.
Ukuwela eluthandweni ngamava aguqulayo anamandla okutshintsha ubomi bethu ngeendlela esingazange sicinge ukuba zinokwenzeka. Ezi ngcaphuno ezithandekayo zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sobuhle kunye nobunzima bale mvakalelo inzulu, kwaye ziyasikhuthaza ukuba sixabise kwaye sibhiyozele umlingo wokuthandana.
Umlingo wokuQala: Iingcaphuno zokuwela eluthandweni
Ukuwela eluthandweni ngamava omlingo anamandla okuguqula ubomi bethu. Luhambo olusikhwelisa kwi-rollercoaster yeemvakalelo, ukusuka kwindawo ephakamileyo echwayitisayo ukuya kumazantsi akrakra. Nazi ezinye iikowuti ezithandekayo malunga nokuthandana ezithimba undoqo wolu hambo lumnandi:
- 'Uthando ngumdlalo onokudlalwa ngabantu ababini baze baphumelele.' -Eva Gabor
- 'Ukuthanda kufana nokutsiba kwisakhiwo eside ngokwenene. Ingqondo yakho ikuxelela ukuba asiyongcamango ilungileyo, kodwa intliziyo yakho ikuxelela ukuba ungabhabha.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Uthando alukho malunga nokuba zingaphi iintsuku, iiveki, okanye iinyanga enizichithe kunye, kodwa luxhomekeke kwindlela enithandana ngayo yonke imihla.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Isiqalo sothando kukuvumela abo sibathandayo ukuba bagqibelele ngokwabo, kwaye singabajija ukuze bafanele umfanekiso wethu. Kungenjalo, sithanda kuphela imbonakalo yethu esiyifumana kubo.' -Thomas Merton
- 'Ukuthandana kulula, kodwa ukuhlala eluthandweni kulapho kwenzeka khona umlingo wangempela.' -Akwaziwa
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ngomlingo oza nokuthandana. Ziyasikhuthaza ukuba silwamkele uhambo, sixabise amaxesha, kwaye sibambelele kuthando olusizisela uvuyo kunye nolonwabo. Uthando luhambo oluhle, kwaye isiqalo sisiqalo nje sebali elimangalisayo.
Xa uqala ukuwela kwiingcaphuno zothando?
Xa kuziwa ekuthandeni, kukho amaxesha kunye neengcaphuno ezibamba ngokugqibeleleyo umlingo kunye nesimangaliso sala mava amangalisayo. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezichaza kakuhle izigaba zokuqala zokuthandana:
'Uthando lubuhlobo obusekelwe kumculo.' - UJoseph Campbell | 'Ndiye ndayithanda indlela olala ngayo: ngokukhawuleza, kwaye emva koko konke ngaxeshanye.' - UJohn Green |
'Olona thando lubalaseleyo lolo luvusa umphefumlo; oko kusenza sifikelele okungakumbi, okutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu kuze kuzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.’ - Nicholas Sparks | 'Ndicinga ukuba ukuthandana kusoloko kumangalisa, akunjalo?' -Josh Dallas |
'Olona lonwabo lukhulu ebomini kukweyiseka ukuba siyathandwa; esizithanda ngokwethu, okanye kanye, nangaphezu kweziqu zethu.' - UVictor Hugo | 'Ukuthanda kufana nokutshayiswa yilori ukanti ungenzakalanga. Ukugula nje kwesisu sakho, phezulu umzuzu omnye, uphantsi olandelayo. Ulamba ulambile kodwa ungenakutya. Kushushu, kuyabanda, kuyatshisa ngonaphakade, kuzele lithemba nomdlandla, kunye nokudandatheka okomzuzwana okukucimkileyo.' -UJackie Collins |
Ezi ngcaphuno zibamba undoqo wokuthandana-inkqubo kancinane, into engalindelekanga, kunye neemvakalelo ezoyikekayo eziza nayo. Nokuba usaqala ukuthandana okanye ukhumbula amanqanaba okuqala, ezi zicatshulwa ziya kuhambelana nawe kwaye zikukhumbuze ngobuhle bolu hambo lungaqhelekanga.
Yintoni umlingo wezicaphulo zothando?
Iingcaphuno zothando zinomlingo othile osithimbayo kwaye uthetha ngqo neentliziyo zethu. Banamandla okuvula iimvakalelo zethu ezinzulu, bavuselele iimvakalelo zothando, kwaye basikhumbuze ngobuhle kunye nobunzima bothando.
Esinye sezizathu zokuba kutheni iikowuti zothando zinomlingo kukuba zinokubonisa ngamagama ambalwa into esisokolayo ukuyibeka kumagama ngokwethu. Uthando luyimvakalelo entsonkothileyo kwaye kaninzi ayichazeki, kodwa iikowuti zinamandla okusigquma umongo walo kwaye zidlulise ubunzulu bayo ngendlela emfutshane nenamandla.
Izicatshulwa zothando zikwanako nokusikhuthaza nokusiphakamisa. Banokusikhumbuza ngokubaluleka kothando ebomini bethu, kwaye basikhuthaze ukuba sibuxabise kwaye sikhulise ubudlelwane bethu. Ingaba isicatshulwa malunga novuyo lokuthandana okanye amandla othando olungapheliyo, ezi catshulwa zinendlela yokuchukumisa imiphefumlo yethu kwaye zisikhumbuza ngomlingo oziswa luthando.
Ngapha koko, iikowuti zothando zinokunika intuthuzelo kunye nentuthuzelo ngamaxesha anzima. Zinokuba sisikhumbuzo sokuba uthando lulwimi olusetyenziswa kwihlabathi liphela ngaphaya kwemida luze luhlanganise abantu. Ngamaxesha entliziyo okanye isithukuthezi, izicatshulwa zothando zinokunikela ngethemba eliqaqambileyo kwaye zisikhumbuze ukuba uthando luhlala lufanelekile.
Okokugqibela, iikowuti zothando zinomgangatho ongaphelelwa lixesha obenza banxibelelane nabantu kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana. Uthando ngamava endalo yonke athe abhiyozelwa kwaye aphononongwa ziimbongi, ababhali, kunye namagcisa kuyo yonke imbali. Iingcaphuno zothando zisivumela ukuba siqhagamshelane nobulumko kunye nokuqonda kwabo beze phambi kwethu, kwaye sisikhumbuze ukuba uthando lunamandla angapheliyo kwaye ahlala ehlala ebomini bethu.
Ukuqukumbela, umlingo wothando ucaphula amandla abo okuvakalisa into engenakuchazwa, ukusikhuthaza, ukubonelela ngentuthuzelo, kunye nokusidibanisa nobulumko bothando obungapheliyo. Banendlela yokubamba undoqo wothando kwaye basikhumbuza ngamandla kunye nobuhle balo. Ke, masamkele umlingo wocaphulo lothando kwaye sibavumele ukuba bachukumise iintliziyo zethu kwaye batyebise ubomi bethu.
Sisiphi isicatshulwa esilungileyo kwisiqalo esitsha?
Ukuqala into entsha kunokuba mnandi kwaye kube nzima. Lithuba lokushiya ixesha elidlulileyo ngasemva kwaye wamkele isiqalo esitsha. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezikhuthazayo kuhambo lwakho:
| 'Yonke imihla sisiqalo esitsha. Thatha umoya uze uqale kwakhona.' |
| 'Inyathelo lokuqala lokuya kwindawo ethile kukugqiba kwelokuba awuyi kuhlala apho ukhoyo.' |
| 'Musa ukoyika ukunika yonke into obuyifuna ebomini.' |
| 'Qala apho ukhoyo. Sebenzisa oko unako. Yenza okusemandleni akho.' |
| 'Ubomi bumalunga notshintsho. Ngamanye amaxesha kuba buhlungu. Ngamanye amaxesha intle. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi zimbini.' |
| 'Ikamva lelabo bakholelwa kubuhle bamaphupha abo.' |
| 'Awukhe ube mdala kakhulu ukuba uzibekele olunye usukelo okanye uphuphe iphupha elitsha.' |
| 'Isiphelo ngasinye sisiqalo esitsha.' |
| 'Ekuphela kwendlela yokwenza umsebenzi omkhulu kukuthanda into oyenzayo.' |
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ukuba iziqalo ezitsha zigcwele amandla kwaye sinamandla okubumba ikamva lethu. Yamkela into engaziwayo kwaye ubambe ithuba lokudala into emangalisayo!
Yintoni isicatshulwa sefilosofi malunga nokuthandana?
Ukuthandana ngamava anzulu aye acingwa zizithandi zobulumko ukutyhubela imbali. Nantsi ingqokelela yeengcaphuno ezixhokonxa iingcinga malunga nokuthandana ngokwembono yefilosofi:
- 'Uthando luyilwe ngumphefumlo omnye ohlala emizimbeni emibini.' - Aristotle
- 'Sibunjwa kwaye senziwa yinto esiyithandayo.' - UJohann Wolfgang von Goethe
- 'Uthando yeyona nto isihlaziyayo ebomini.' -Pablo Picasso
- 'Uthando asikuko ukufumana umntu oza kuhlala naye, kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.' - Rafael Ortiz
- 'Ikhosi yothando lokwenene ayizange ihambe kakuhle.' - UWilliam Shakespeare
- 'Olona lonwabo lukhulu ebomini kukweyiseka ukuba siyathandwa; esizithanda ngokwethu, okanye kanye, nangaphezu kweziqu zethu.' - UVictor Hugo
- 'Uthando sisitshixo esiyintloko esivula amasango olonwabo.' -Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.
- 'Uthando luquka oku: iindawo ezimbini zodwa ezidibanayo, ezikhuselayo nezibulisanayo.' - URainer Maria Rilke
- 'Uthando lilaphu elenziwe ngendalo nelihonjiswe yintelekelelo.' -IVoltaire
- 'Uthando asiyonto ovakalelwa ngayo kuphela, yinto oyenzayo.' - UDavid Wilkerson
Ezi zicatshulwa zinika ingqiqo enzulu malunga nobunjani bothando kunye nempembelelo yalo ebomini bethu. Zisikhumbuza ngobuhle kunye nobunzima bokuthandana, kwaye zisikhuthaza ukuba sicingisise ngentsingiselo yalo enzulu.
Iingcaphuno zothando zokuwela eluthandweni: Amagama okufudumeza intliziyo yakho
'Uthando alufumani mntu uhlala naye; kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.'
- Rafael Ortiz
'Ukuthanda kufana nokutsiba kwisakhiwo eside ngokwenene. Ingqondo yakho ikuxelela ukuba asiyongcamango ilungileyo, kodwa intliziyo yakho ikuxelela ukuba ungabhabha.'
-Akwaziwa
'Ukuthandwa ngokunzulu ngomnye umntu kukunika amandla ngoxa umthanda ngokunzulu umntu kukunika inkalipho.'
-Lao Tzu
'Uyazi ukuba usemathandweni xa ungakwazi ukulala ngenxa yokuba inyaniso ekugqibeleni ingcono kunamaphupha akho.'
- UGqr Seuss
'Uthando lubuhlobo obusekelwe kumculo.'
- UJoseph Campbell
'Olona thando lubalaseleyo lolo luvusa umphefumlo; oko kusenza sifikelele okungakumbi, okutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu kuze kuzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.’
- Nicholas Sparks
'Ukuba bendinentyatyambo ngalo lonke ixesha ndicinga ngawe, bendinokuhamba egadini yam ngonaphakade.'
- UAlfred Lord Tennyson
'Uthando luyilwe ngumphefumlo omnye ohlala emizimbeni emibini.'
- Aristotle
'Ukuthanda akuyonto. Ukuthandwa yinto. Kodwa ukuthanda nokuthandwa, yiyo yonke into.'
- T. Tolis
Yintoni isicatshulwa sothando malunga nokufudumala?
Uthando lufana neziko elipholileyo, lufudumeza intliziyo nomphefumlo wakho.
“Uthando lwakho lufana nengubo efudumeleyo kubusuku obubandayo basebusika, lundisongele ngokuthuthuzelayo luze lundizalise ngovuyo.” |
Ekwamkeleni uthando lwakho, ndifumana imfudumalo nentuthuzelo ebendisoloko ndiyilangazelela.
“Uthando lilanga elikhupha ubushushu nokukhanya kubunzulu bobomi bam, lindenza ndizive ndiphila kwaye ndiphelele.”
Kunye nawe, ndifumene ukufudumala kwewaka lelanga, ukukhanyisa indlela yam kunye nokwenza umzuzu ngamnye ube ngumlingo. Loluphi udonga ekufuneka lube ludonga lwe-aksenti kwigumbi lokulala |
“Uthando lwakho lufana nempepho epholileyo ebudeni bemini yasehlotyeni, luzisa ukufudumala nokuzola emphefumlweni wam.”
Kanye njengokuba ikomityi yekoko eshushu iwufudumeza umzimba, uthando lwakho luyayifudumeza intliziyo yam kwaye lundizalise ngolonwabo.
Ndingayichukumisa njani intliziyo yakhe ngamazwi othando?
Xa kufikelelwa kumbandela wokubonakalisa uthando lwethu komnye umntu, ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo kudla ngokuba lucelomngeni. Nangona kunjalo, ngengcinga encinci kunye nomgudu, unokuchukumisa intliziyo yakhe ngamazwi othando aya kushiya umbono ongapheliyo. Nanga amanye amacebiso okukunceda uchaze iimvakalelo zakho:
- Nyaniseka: Thetha ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye ube yinyani kumazwi akho. Veza uthando lwakho ngendlela ebonisa iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani.
- Sebenzisa imizekelo engqalileyo: Kunokuba uthi ‘ndiyakuthanda,’ zama ukuquka imizekelo ethile ebonisa isizathu sokuba umthanda. Oku kuya kwenza ukuba amagama akho abe nentsingiselo kwaye abe buqu.
- Yiba nobuchule: Cinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi kwaye usebenzise izikweko ezizodwa okanye uthelekiso ukuchaza uthando lwakho. Oku kuya kwenza ukuba amazwi akho agqame kwaye akhumbuleke ngakumbi.
- Bhala ileta yothando: Ukuzinika ixesha lokubhala ileta yothando olusuk’ entliziyweni kunokuchukumisa kakhulu. Bhala iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho kwaye umazise ukuba uthetha kangakanani kuwe.
- Bonisa umbulelo: Kanye nokubonakalisa uthando lwakho, thatha ixesha lokubonisa umbulelo wakho ngokuba naye ebomini bakho. Mxelele ukuba ukongezelela kangakanani kulonwabo lwakho nendlela onokubulela ngayo ngokuba naye.
- Zithembe: Musa ukoyika ukuba sesichengeni kwaye uvakalise iimvakalelo zakho ngokuphandle. Ukuzithemba kumazwi akho kuya kuwenza abe namandla ngakumbi kwaye abe nefuthe.
Khumbula, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye unyaniseke kuwe. Amazwi akho othando kufuneka aphume kwindawo yokunyaniseka kunye neemvakalelo zokwenyani. Ngala macebiso engqondweni, unokuchukumisa intliziyo yakhe kwaye umazise ukuba uthetha kangakanani kuwe.
Yintoni isicatshulwa malunga nokuthandana?
'Uthando asikuko ukufumana umntu onokuhlala naye, kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.' Esi sicatshulwa sibambe ngokugqibeleleyo undoqo wokuthandana. Xa umthanda ngokwenene umntu, uba yinxalenye yakho, kwaye ingcinga yobomi ngaphandle kwakhe ayinyamezeleki. Uthando lumalunga nokufumana loo mntu ukugqibezelayo, okwenza uzive uphelele kwaye uvelisa okona kulungileyo kuwe.
Uthando aluqikeleleki kwaye lunokukufumana ungalindelanga . Inokwenzeka xa ubungayilindelanga, kwaye nomntu ongazange ucinge. Yinto emangalisayo emangalisayo enokuguqula umhlaba wakho ujonge phantsi. Uthando lumalunga nokuthatha imingcipheko, ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, kwaye uzivulele ukuba ube nokwenzakala. Kodwa kukwamalunga nokufumana ulonwabo olumangalisayo kunye nolonwabo oluza kukufumana uthando lokwenyani.
'Ukuthandana kulula, ukuhlala eluthandweni kulucelomngeni.' Esi sicatshulwa sisikhumbuza ukuba ukuthandana sisiqalo nje. Uthando lufuna umgudu, ukuzinikela, nokuqonda ukuze luhlale luhleli. Imalunga nokukhula kunye, ukuxhasana kumahla-ndinyuka, nokuqhubeka nokukhethana yonke imihla. Uthando luhambo, kwaye ukuthandana linyathelo nje lokuqala.
Ukuwela eluthandweni ngamava amahle kwaye aguqulayo . Inamandla okusikhuthaza, ukusenza sifune ukuba ziinguqulelo ezingcono zethu. Uthando lumalunga nokwamkela umntu ukuba angubani, iziphene kunye nazo zonke, kwaye umthande ngaphandle kwemiqathango. Kumalunga nokwamkela ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokuzivumela ukuba ubonwe kwaye uthandwe njengoko unguye ngokwenyani. Ukuthandana sisipho, kwaye yinto emele ixatyiswe kwaye ibhiyozelwe.
Uyinyibilikisa njani intliziyo ngamazwi?
Xa kuthethwa ngokunyibilikisa intliziyo yomntu ngamazwi, ukunyaniseka neemvakalelo zokwenene zingundoqo. Nanga amanye amacebiso ngendlela yokubamba umntu ngamazwi akho:
| 1. Thetha ngokusuka entliziyweni | Chaza iimvakalelo zakho ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuphandle. Mxelele umntu ukuba unentsingiselo kangakanani kuwe kwaye abutshintshe njani ubomi bakho. |
| 2. Sebenzisa ulwimi lwesihobe | Yenza uyilo ngamagama akho kwaye usebenzise izikweko okanye izifaniso ukupeyinta umfanekiso ocacileyo weemvakalelo zakho. Oku kuya kwenza umyalezo wakho ukhumbuleke ngakumbi kwaye ube nefuthe. |
| 3. Cacisa | Kuphephe ukuncoma igeneric kwaye ucacise malunga nento oyithandayo ngomntu. Nokuba luncumo lwabo, ukuhleka kwabo, okanye ububele babo, baxelele ukuba yintoni ebenza bakhetheke kuwe. |
| 4. Bhala ileta esuka entliziyweni | Kweli xesha ledijithali, ileta ebhalwe ngesandla inokuchukumisa ngendlela emangalisayo. Thatha ixesha lokubhala phantsi iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho, kwaye umzamo owenzayo kuwo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuzinyibilikisa iintliziyo zabo. |
| 5. Sebenzisa izicatshulwa kunye nemibongo | Zoba inkuthazo kwizicatshulwa ezidumileyo okanye imibongo ehambelana neemvakalelo zakho. Ukuquka oku kumyalezo wakho kongeza ubunzulu kwaye kubonisa ukuba ubeke ingcamango kumazwi akho. |
| 6. Yiba ngonyanisekileyo | Ngaphezu kwako konke, yiba nguwe kwaye uthethe ngokusuka entliziyweni. Ubunyani bakho buya kuqaqamba kwaye bube nefuthe elikhulu kunawo nawaphi na amagama acetyiweyo okanye ashicilelweyo. |
Khumbula, amandla amagama alele ekukwazini ukuvuselela iimvakalelo kunye nokudala unxibelelwano. Ngokuthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye ukhethe amagama akho ngononophelo, unokuyinyibilikisa ngokwenene intliziyo yomnye umntu kwaye udale impembelelo ehlala ihleli.
Ukuwela Umntu: Iingcaphuno ezithetha ngamava
Xa uwela emntwini, kufana nokubanjiswa ngumoya ovuthuzayo. Ezi zicatshulwa zibamba ngokugqibeleleyo undoqo waloo mava:
'Ndiye ndayithanda indlela owandichukumisa ngayo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izandla zakho.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela kumntu kulula xa eyinto yonke owake wayiphupha.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela komnye umntu akukhethi, ngamandla angalawulekiyo.' -Akwaziwa
'Uyazi ukuba uwela kumntu xa uncumo lwakhe luba yinto oyithandayo yosuku.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela ngenxa yothile kufana nokufumana indalo entsha ngokupheleleyo ngaphakathi kuwe.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela ngenxa yothile kufana nokungqungqa kwincam yengxondorha, kuchwayitisa kwaye kukhwankqise ngaxeshanye.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela umntu kufana nokuva ubushushu belanga emva kobusika obude nobubandayo.' -Akwaziwa
'Xa uwela umntu, awukwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ubone ubuhle kuyo yonke into ekungqongileyo.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela umntu kufana nokufumana iqhekeza lephazili eligqibe intliziyo yakho.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuwela ngenxa yomntu kufana nokuntywila kulwandlekazi olungenasiphelo sothando yaye ungaze ufune ukuvela kwakhona.' -Akwaziwa
Ezi zicatshulwa zibambe ngokugqibeleleyo ulonwabo, uchulumanco, kunye nokuba sesichengeni okuza nokuwela komnye umntu. Nokuba uphakathi kwayo okanye ukhumbula amava adlulileyo, asebenza njengesikhumbuzo semvakalelo yomlingo enokuziswa luthando.
Umxelela njani umntu ukuba uwela kubo iingcaphuno?
Xa amagama engabubonakalisi ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakho, maxa wambi ukucaphula kunokwenza iqhinga. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezithandekayo ezinokukunceda ugqithise iimvakalelo zakho kumntu owela kuye:
'Ngalo lonke ixesha ndikubona, ndiphinda ndithandane.' -Akwaziwa
'Andizange ndiyazi indlela endandimthanda ngayo umntu de ndadibana nawe.' -Akwaziwa
'Undithakathile, umzimba nomphefumlo, kwaye ndiyakuthanda ... ndiyakuthanda ... ndiyakuthanda.' - Jane Austen
'Ndiwela kuwe kwaye andinakuyeka. Andisakwazi ukuyiphika. Nguwe lo bendimlindile.' -Akwaziwa
'Uyenza intliziyo yam itsibe kwaye umphefumlo wam uncume. Ndiyawela kuwe, kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba nawe uyawa ngenxa yam.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuba nawe kuvakala ngathi ndibuyela ekhaya. Ndiyawela kuwe, kwaye andifuni kukuyeka uhambe.' -Akwaziwa
'Nguwe isizathu sokuba ndikholelwe eluthandweni. Ukuwa ngenxa yakho yeyona nto ilungileyo yakha yandehlela.' -Akwaziwa
'Andikwazi kuzibamba ndincume xa ndicinga ngawe. Ndiyakuwela, kwaye yeyona mvakalelo intle ehlabathini.' -Akwaziwa
'Uyinto engekhoyo kwiphazili yam. Ndiyakuwela, kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba nawe uziva ngendlela efanayo.' -Akwaziwa
'Andizange ndizive ngolu hlobo ngaphambili, kwaye konke kungenxa yakho. Ndiyakuwela, kwaye yeyona mvakalelo ilungileyo ehlabathini.' -Akwaziwa
Khumbula, ezi zicatshulwa zisisiqalo nje. Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye uvumele amazwi akho aveze ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakho.
Yintoni isicatshulwa esinzulu malunga neemvakalelo zomntu?
Xa umkhathalele ngokwenene umntu, ulonwabo lwakhe luba lolwakho.
Ubunzulu beemvakalelo zam ngawe abunakulinganiswa, njengobunzulu bolwandle.
Uthando alukho malunga nokufumana umntu ofezekileyo, kodwa ukubona umntu ongafezekanga ngokugqibeleleyo.
Ukudibana nawe yayilishwa, ukuba ngumhlobo wakho yayilukhetho, kodwa ukuthandana nawe kwakungaphaya kwamandla am.
Uthando lwam kuwe luhambo, oluqala ngonaphakade kwaye luphele naphakade.
Ukuthandwa kakhulu ngumntu kukunika amandla, ngelixa ukuthanda umntu ngokunzulu kukunika isibindi.
Uthando yiseyile evezwe yindalo kwaye ihonjiswe yintelekelelo.
Eyona nto intle kwaye intle kakhulu kweli hlabathi ayinakubonwa okanye iviwe, kodwa kufuneka ivakalelwe ngentliziyo.
Uthando aluyonto uyifumanayo. Uthando yinto ekufumanayo.
Uthando lokwenyani alukho malunga nokugqibelela, lufihlwe kwiintsilelo kunye nokungafezeki.
- Uthando lulwimi olubonwa ziimfama nezithulu zive.
- Kuncumo lwakho, ndibona into entle ngakumbi kuneenkwenkwezi.
- Uthando yibhulorho phakathi kweentliziyo ezimbini.
- Xa usemathandweni, awukwazi ukulala ngenxa yokuba inyaniso ekugqibeleni ingcono kunamaphupha akho.
- Uthando aluyiyo le uyithethayo. Uthando yinto oyenzayo.
Uthando yimvakalelo engenakuchazwa ngamazwi, ivakale kuphela.
Uthando alukho malunga nokuba nezinto, lumalunga nokuxabisa.
Uthando lokwenene kukwazi iimpazamo zomntu nokuzithanda ngakumbi ngenxa yazo.
- Uthando yeyona nto ihlaziyayo ebomini.
- Uthando luyilwe ngumphefumlo omnye ohlala emizimbeni emibini.
- Olona thando lubalaseleyo luhlobo oluvusa umphefumlo luze lusenze sifikelele ngakumbi, olutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu luze luzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.
- Intliziyo ifuna oko ikufunayo. Akukho ngqiqweni kwezi zinto. Udibana nomntu kwaye nithandane kwaye yiloo nto.
- Uthando lufana nomoya, awukwazi ukulubona kodwa uyaluva.
Uyichaza njani imvakalelo yakho kumntu ocaphulayo?
Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho komnye umntu kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha isicatshulwa esikhethwe kakuhle sinokukunceda ukuba udlulisele iimvakalelo zakho ngendlela elula kodwa enamandla. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezinokukunceda uchaze iimvakalelo zakho kumntu:
'Ungunobangela wokuba ndincume yonke imihla.' -Akwaziwa
'Andizange ndilwazi ukuba yintoni uthando de ndadibana nawe.' -Akwaziwa
'Unentliziyo yam yonke, ubomi bam bonke.' -Akwaziwa
'Ndikuthanda ngaphezu kokuba amazwi anokuchazwa.' -Akwaziwa
'Ngalo lonke ixesha ndikubona, intliziyo yam iyabethabetha.' -Akwaziwa
'Undenza ndizive njengoyena mntu unethamsanqa ehlabathini.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuba nawe kufana nephupha elizalisekileyo.' -Akwaziwa
'Usisiqwengana esingekhoyo kwiphazili yam.' -Akwaziwa
'Andinakubuthelekelela ubomi bam ngaphandle kwakho.' -Akwaziwa
'Iyinto yam yonke.' -Akwaziwa
Ezi ngcaphuno zinokukunceda uchaze iimvakalelo zakho kumntu osuk’ entliziyweni nangendlela enyanisekileyo. Nokuba uzama ukubonisa uthando lwakho, umbulelo, okanye ukuncoma, ezi zicatshulwa zinokusebenza njengesiqalo sokwazisa umntu ukuba zithetha kangakanani kuwe.
Ixabisa malini ihedgehog
Mfutshane kwaye eSweet: Iingcaphuno ezimnandi malunga noKuthandana
1. 'Wenza intliziyo yam itsibe kwaye uncumo lwam lukhanye ngokuqaqambileyo.'
Xa uthandana, yonke into encinci ngomntu inokwenza intliziyo yakho iqhube kwaye ikuzise uvuyo kumhla wakho.
2. 'Uthando lufana nebhabhathane – elithambileyo kwaye lihle, linokuqaqambisa ihlabathi lakho.'
Ukuwela eluthandweni kunokuzisa imvakalelo yobuhle kunye nokukhaphukhaphu ebomini bakho, njengobukho obuthambileyo bebhabhathane.
3. 'Kuwe, ndifumene iqhekeza lephazili yam.'
Ukuwela eluthandweni kunokukwenza uzive uphelele kwaye wanelisekile, ngokungathi ekugqibeleni uyifumene indawo yakho engekhoyo.
4. 'Uthando aluyomvakalelo nje; lulonwabo endifuna ukuluqalisa nawe.'
Xa uthandana, akukhona nje ngeemvakalelo, kodwa malunga nohambo olunomdla ofuna ukuluthatha kunye neqabane lakho.
5. 'Ungumculo omnandi odlala entliziyweni yam, usenza yonke imihla ibe yingoma emnandi.'
Ukuba sothandweni kunokuzalisa intliziyo yakho ngoncuthu lwengoma emnandi, yenze usuku ngalunye luvakale njengamava avisisanayo nawolonwabo.
6. 'Ukuthanda kufana nokufumana ubutyebi obufihliweyo obuzisa ulonwabo nolonwabo olungenasiphelo.'
Ukufumana uthando kunokuziva ngathi ukhubeka kubutyebi obuxabisekileyo obuzisa ulonwabo olungenasiphelo kunye nolonwabo ebomini bakho.
7. 'Usesona sahluko ndisithandayo kwincwadi yothando.'
Ukuthandana nomntu kunokufana nokufumana isahluko osithandayo kwibali lothando, elizaliswe yimincili kunye nolindelo.
8. 'Uthando ngumlingo ojika amaxesha aqhelekileyo abe ziinkumbulo ezingaqhelekanga.'
Xa uthandana, nezona zihlandlo zilula ziba ngumlingo kwaye zingalibaleki, zidale iinkumbulo ezixabisekileyo.
9. 'Uyinto engekhoyo kum ngolonwabo.'
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani umoya ukuwela
Ukufumana uthando kunokuziva ngathi ekugqibeleni ugqibezela iphazili yobomi bakho, ikukhokelele kwesakho isiphelo esigqibeleleyo nesonwabileyo.
10. 'Uthando lufana nekomityi yekoko kusuku olubandayo lwasebusika – olufudumeleyo, oluthuthuzelayo, kwaye luyolisa ngokupheleleyo.'
Ukuthandana kunokuzisa ukufudumala, intuthuzelo, kunye nolonwabo olunyulu ebomini bakho, njengekomityi yekoko eshushu ngemini yasebusika ebandayo.
Zeziphi ezinye zacaphulo ezimfutshane zothando ezithandekayo?
Uthando yimvakalelo entle enokubonakaliswa ngeendlela ezininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha, amagama ambalwa alula anokuthimba undoqo wothando ngokugqibeleleyo. Nazi ezinye iikowuti zothando ezintle nezimfutshane eziza kwenza intliziyo yakho inyibilike:
'Ubundibulisile.' | 'Luthando oludingayo.' |
'Ndikuthanda ukuya enyangeni kwaye ubuye.' | 'Ulilanga lam elishayinayo.' |
'Uthando luhambo, aluyondawo ekuyiwa kuyo.' | 'Uyandigqiba.' |
'Ungoyena mntu ubalaseleyo wakha wandehlela.' | 'Uthando lulwimi oluthethwa yintliziyo.' |
'Uyenza intliziyo yam ibethe isingqi.' | 'Ndingowakho ngonaphakade.' |
Ezi zicaphulo zimnandi zothando ezimfutshane zifanelekile ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho kumntu omthandayo. Nokuba ufuna ukuwabhala ekhadini, uwathumele kumyalezo obhaliweyo, okanye uwathethe ngokobuqu, aqinisekile ukuba uya kumenza umntu wakho okhethekileyo azive ethandwa kwaye exatyiswa.
Ziziphi iimpawu zothando ezithandekayo?
1. 'Uyipeanut butter kwijeli yam, itshizi kwimacaroni yam, nobisi kumaqebengwana am.'
Esi sicatshulwa yindlela emnandi yokubonisa indlela umntu akugqibezela ngayo kwaye ezisa ulonwabo ebomini bakho.
2. 'Uthando alufumani mntu uhlala naye, kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.'
Esi sicatshulwa sigxininisa uxhulumaniso olunzulu kunye nokuxhomekeka ozivayo kumntu omthandayo.
3. 'Ndiyakuthanda enyangeni nasemva.'
Esi sicatshulwa sigxininisa uthando olungenasiphelo kunye nothando onalo ngomntu.
4. 'Undibulisile.'
Esi sicatshulwa sibonisa ukuba wathandana nomntu ukusukela oko wawuqala ukudibana naye.
5 Kolwandle lwabantu, amehlo am aya kusoloko ekukhangela.
Esi sicaphulo sivakalisa iqhina elikhethekileyo nelikhethekileyo onalo nomntu omthandayo.
6. 'Ibali ngalinye lothando lihle, kodwa lelethu yeyona nto ndiyithandayo.'
Esi sicatshulwa sibalaselisa ibali lothando elikhethekileyo nelixabisekileyo owabelana ngalo neqabane lakho.
7. 'Ulilanga lam ngemini enamafu.'
Esi sicatshulwa sibonisa indlela umntu omthandayo akuzisa ngayo ukukhanya kunye nolonwabo ebomini bakho, nangamaxesha anzima.
8. 'Andinakubuthelekelela ubomi bam ngaphandle kwakho.'
Esi sicaphulo sibonakalisa uthando olunzulu kunye nokuncamathela onakho kwiqabane lakho.
9. 'Uyenza intliziyo yam ibethe isingqi.'
Esi sicatshulwa sibonisa uchulumanco kunye novuyo oluvayo xa ukunye nomntu omthandayo.
10. 'Ndiye ndikuthanda ngakumbi nangakumbi yonke imihla.'
Esi sicatshulwa sibonisa uthando olukhulayo nolukhulayo onalo ngomntu ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Umbuzo kunye nempendulo:
Zeziphi ezinye iingcaphulo malunga nokuthandana?
Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezithetha ngokuthandana: 'Ukuthandwa ngokunzulu ngomnye umntu kukunika amandla, ngoxa ukuthanda umntu ngokunzulu kukunika inkalipho.' - Lao Tzu; 'Uyazi ukuba usemathandweni xa ungakwazi ukulala ngenxa yokuba inyaniso ekugqibeleni ingcono kunamaphupha akho.' - UGqr Seuss; 'Uthando lubuhlobo obusekelwe kumculo.' - UJoseph Campbell.
Ngubani owathi, 'Ukuthandwa ngokunzulu ngomnye umntu kukunika amandla, ngoxa ukuthanda umntu ngokunzulu kukunika inkalipho?'
Esi sicatshulwa sibhalwe nguLao Tzu.
Ithetha ntoni isicatshulwa sikaGqirha Seuss?
Isicatshulwa sikaGqirha Seuss sithetha ukuba xa usemathandweni, ubunyani bokuba kunye nomntu omthandayo bungcono kunamaphupha akho.
Sithetha ukuthini isicatshulwa sikaJoseph Campbell?
Isicatshulwa sikaJoseph Campbell sithetha ukuba uthando lufana nobuhlobo, kodwa ngoxhumo olunzulu kunye nentsingiselo.
Ngaba zikho ezinye izicatshulwa malunga nokuthandana?
Ewe, kukho ezinye ezininzi izicatshulwa malunga nokuthandana. Ezinye ezidumileyo ziquka ezi: 'Uthando luyilwe ngumphefumlo omnye ohlala emizimbeni emibini.' - Aristotle; 'Eyona nto ilungileyo omele ubambelele kuyo ebomini kukunye.' - Audrey Hepburn; 'Uthando lufana nomoya, awukwazi ukulubona kodwa uyaluva.' - Nicholas Sparks.
