Alukho ulwalamano olunjalo phakathi kukamama nomntwana wakhe. Lunxibelelwano oluhamba ngaphaya kwamagama, lugqitha ixesha nendawo. Uthando nothando oluphakathi kukamama nomntwana lumangalisa ngokwenene, yaye ludla ngokubonakaliswa ngemiyalezo esuk’ entliziyweni nangamazwi acatshulweyo.
Ukususela ekuzalweni komntwana, uthando lukamama alunamida. Luthando olungagungqiyo, olungagungqiyo, noluhlala luhleli. Ngamahla-ndinyuka obomi, umama usoloko ekho, enikela inkxaso, isikhokelo, negxalaba angqiyame ngalo.
Ezi ngcaphuno zikhuthazayo kunye nemiyalezo phakathi komama nomntwana ibamba eyona nto iphambili kobu budlelwane buhle. Zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sothando olunzulu kunye nonxibelelwano olukhoyo phakathi komama nomntwana wakhe, kwaye ziyasikhuthaza ukuba siwuxabise kwaye sibhiyozele olu manyano.
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Nokuba ilula 'Ndiyakuthanda' okanye umyalezo osuka entliziyweni wombulelo, ezi zicatshulwa kunye nemiyalezo zibubungqina bendima engakholelekiyo edlalwa ngoomama ebomini bethu. Zisikhumbuza ngokuzincama koomama, izifundo abazifundisayo, nothando olungenasiphelo abalunikelayo.
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Ke, thatha umzuzwana ufunde ngezi caphulo zichukumisayo kunye nemiyalezo phakathi komama nomntwana. Mabasebenze njengembeko koomama abamangalisayo ebomini bethu kunye nesikhumbuzo sothando olunzulu olukhoyo phakathi komama nomntwana wakhe.
Uthando lukaMama: Iingcaphuno ezisuka entliziyweni zoonyana neentombi
Alukho uthando olusulungekileyo nolungenamiqathango njengothando lukamama kubantwana bakhe. Ngamahla ndinyuka obomi, uthando lukamama luhlala luqinile kwaye alugungqi. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezisuka entliziyweni ezithi thaca kakuhle undoqo wothando lukamama ngoonyana neentombi zakhe:
ewe okanye hayi imibuzo yokubuza ukuba utyumke
'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe alufani nanto yanto ehlabathini. Ayinamida okanye imida, yaye isoloko ikhona, ikulungele ukwamkela nokuxhasa.' |
'Kunyana wam, uliqhayiya novuyo lwam. Yonke imihla ndinombulelo ngelungelo lokuba ngumama wakho nokubona umntu omangalisayo osiba nguye.' |
Iintombi zilukhanyiso lobomi bomama. Zizisa uvuyo, ukuhleka, kunye nonikezelo olungapheliyo lothando. Ndinebhongo ngokukubiza ngokuba yintombi yam, yaye ndihlala ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngomanyano esinalo.' |
'Nokuba ungakanani na, uya kuhlala uyintombazana yam encinci. Uthando lwam ngawe alunamida, yaye ndiya kuhlala ndilapha ukuze ndikuxhase ndize ndikukhusele.' |
'Oonyana bubutyebi kamama. Ukukubukela ukhula ube ngumntu ongakholelekiyo onguye namhlanje ibe lolona lonwabo lukhulu ebomini bam. Ndikuthanda ngaphezu kokuba amazwi anokuchazwa.' |
'Kulilungelo nozuko ukuba ngunina kunyana; Enkosi ngokuzalisa umhlaba wam ngothando, ukuhleka, kunye neziganeko ezingapheliyo. Ndihlala ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngesipho sokuba ngumama wakho.' |
Uthando lukamama liqhina elingenakophulwa. Luthando olungazicingeliyo, olungenamiqathango, nolungunaphakade. Ezi zicatshulwa zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sothando olumangalisayo noqhagamshelwano phakathi kukamama noonyana bakhe neentombi zakhe.
Sithini isicatshulwa sikamama kunyana nentombi?
Uthando lukamama ngabantwana bakhe alunamda. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezifudumeza intliziyo ezibamba iqhina elikhethekileyo phakathi kukamama nonyana okanye intombi yakhe:
- Unyana ngunyana ade amthabathele umfazi, intombi ibe yintombi bonke ubomi bayo.' - Isaci saseIrish
- 'Abantwana baziintsika zobomi bukanina.' - Sophocles
- 'Intombi yintwazana ekhula ibe ngumhlobo.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alufani nanto yimbi ehlabathini.' - Agatha Christie
- 'Unyana uya kuphuma emathangeni akho, kodwa ayiyi kuba yintliziyo yakho.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Intombi ngummangaliso ongayeki ukuba ngummangaliso.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Iingalo zomama zithuthuzela ngaphezu kwakhe nabani na.' - Princess Diana
- 'Unyana usenokuba mkhulu emathangeni akho, kodwa akasayi kuze ayikhuphe intliziyo yakho.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Intombi yinkumbulo eyonwabisayo yexesha elidlulileyo, amaxesha amnandi angoku, kunye nethemba nesithembiso sekamva.' -Akwaziwa
- 'Uthando lukamama alupheli, lufana nesangqa.' -Akwaziwa
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ngothando olungagungqiyo umama analo ngabantwana bakhe, nokuba ngoonyana okanye iintombi. Babamba unxibelelwano olunzulu kunye nobudlelwane bobomi phakathi komama nomntwana wakhe, nokuba bathini na ngokwesini. Oomama badlala indima ekhethekileyo nengenakuthatyathelwa indawo kubomi babantwana babo, kwaye ezi zicatshulwa zibhiyozela obo budlelwane bukhethekileyo.
Sisiphi isicatshulwa sokuthanda unyana wakho nentombi yakho?
Alukho uthando olungaphezu koluphakathi kukamama nabantwana bakhe. Luthando olungenamida, olungenamiqathango, nolungenamida. Uthando lukamama ngonyana nentombi yakhe alunamiqathango kwaye luhlala luhleli.
Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe luqatha yaye luyamkhusela. Uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuqinisekisa ulonwabo kunye nempumelelo yakhe. Uthando lwakhe ngentombi yakhe luyakhulisa kwaye luyaxhobisa. Uya kuba yintombi yakhe enkulu ye-cheerleader kunye nomthombo wamandla.
Ukuba ngumama kuthetha ukuthanda unyana wakho nentombi yakho ngogonyamelo, ngaphandle kwemiqathango, kwaye ngaphandle kokuzibamba. Kuthetha ukubaxhasa, ukubakhokela, kunye nokuhlala ukho ngenxa yabo. Kuthetha ukubhiyozela impumelelo yabo, ukubathuthuzela kwiintsilelo zabo, nokuxabisa lonke ixesha abalichitha kunye.
Uthando lukamama ngonyana nentombi yakhe liqhina elingenakophulwa. Luthando olomelela ngakumbi suku ngalunye. Luthando oluviwa kuko konke ukwanga, uncumo ngalunye, nakuko konke 'ndiyakuthanda' ekwabelwana ngako.
Ke, masiluxabise kwaye sibhiyozele uthando oluhle phakathi kukamama nonyana wakhe nentombi yakhe. Luthando olulolona hlobo lokwenene nolufanele ukuhlonelwa nokuxatyiswa.
Yintoni oomama abathanda ukucaphula unyana?
Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe liqhina elingenakophulwa, uthando olungenamiqathango noluhlala luhleli. Nazi ezinye iingcaphulo ezichukumisayo ezithatha undoqo wothando lukamama kunyana wakhe:
- 'Unyana liqhayiya novuyo lukamama, eyona nto ixabisekileyo kuye.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe alunamida, alunamda kwaye lungunaphakade.'
- 'Uthando lukamama lubaso oluvumela unyana ukuba enze into engenakwenzeka.'
- 'Uthando lukamama lufana nekhampasi ekhokela unyana wakhe kuhambo lobomi.'
- 'Unyana usenokuba mkhulu emathangeni kanina, kodwa akanakuze ayikhuphe entliziyweni yakhe.'
- 'Uthando lukamama kunyana wakhe lufana nokukhanya kwelanga kwimini enamafu, luzisa ukufudumala nentuthuzelo.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe lungumthombo othe rhoqo wamandla nenkxaso.'
- 'Unyana usenokungasoloko ebona ngasonye nonina, kodwa uya kusoloko eluva uthando lwakhe entliziyweni yakhe.'
- 'Uthando lukamama sisibane esikhokelayo esinceda unyana wakhe ukuba ahambe kwiingxaki zobomi.'
- 'Unyana ngowona msebenzi ubalaseleyo kamama, ilifa lakhe liya kuhlala ngonaphakade.'
Ezi zicatshulwa zibonisa kakuhle uthando olunzulu nolungenamiqathango umama analo ngonyana wakhe. Zisikhumbuza ngomanyano olukhethekileyo oluphakathi kukamama nomntwana wakhe, iqhina elizaliswe luthando, ukuqonda nenkxaso engapheliyo.
Yintoni isicatshulwa esichukumisayo kwiintombi ezivela kumama?
Intombi sisipho esixabisekileyo esizisa uvuyo nothando kubomi bukamama. Nazi izicatshulwa ezifudumez’ intliziyo ezivakalisa iqhina elikhethekileyo phakathi komama nentombi yakhe:
- 'Intombi yintwazana ekhula ibe ngumhlobo.'
- 'Ukuba nentombi kuthetha ukuba nomhlobo ngonaphakade.'
- 'Intombi yimbonakaliso yothando namandla kanina.'
- 'Intombi ngummangaliso ongayeki ukumangalisa.'
- 'Intombi yam yeyona nto ixabisekileyo kum, uthando lwam ngaye alunamida.'
- 'Intombi ihlala ikhumbuza ubuhle kunye nommangaliso wobomi.'
- 'Kwintombi yam, ulilanga lam nesizathu soncumo lwam.'
- 'Intombi yintombazana encinci ekhula ibe ngumfazi onamandla nozimeleyo.'
- 'Intombi yintsikelelo ezalise intliziyo kamama ngothando olungenasiphelo.'
- 'Entombini yam, uyinto yonke kum kwaye ndiyazingca ngokuba ngumama wakho.'
Ezi ngcaphuno zisikrotyana nje sothando kunye nokuncoma umama aziva ngentombi yakhe. Zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo somanyano olungenakuqhawuka phakathi kukamama nomntwana, kunye novuyo olungathethekiyo olubakho ekubeni ngumama entombini.
Iibhondi ezixabisekileyo: Imiyalezo esuka kwiNtliziyo kaMama eya kuBantwana Bakhe
Njengomama uthando lwam kuwe alunasiphelo, kwaye intliziyo yam iphuphuma luvuyo kunye nokuzingca ngokukubona ukhula. Usona sipho sam esona sikhulu, kwaye ndiyabulela ngawo wonke umzuzu esabelana ngawo.
Ngamahla-ndinyuka obomi, yazi ukuba ndisoloko ndilapha ngenxa yakho, ndikulungele ukukunika isikhokelo, inkxaso kunye negxalaba ongqiyame ngalo. Awukho wedwa, kuba uthwala iqhekeza lam ngaphakathi kwakho, kwaye uthando lwam luya kuba yikhampasi yakho ngonaphakade.
Mntwana wam othandekayo, uyakwazi ukulunga. Kholelwa kuwe kunye namaphupha akho, kuba ndikholelwa kuwe ngentliziyo epheleleyo. Sukela emva koko kutshisa umphefumlo wakho, kwaye ungavumeli nabani na okanye nantoni na ukuba ikhanyise ukukhanya kwakho.
Khumbula, ubomi luhambo oluzaliswe zizifundo kunye namava. Yamkela zombini uloyiso kunye nemizabalazo, kuba ikwenza ube ngumntu ongaguqukiyo nonovelwano omiselwe ukuba nguye.
Angabakho amaxesha apho uyathandabuza okanye ujongane nobunzima, kodwa hlala ukhumbula ukuba womelele kunokuba uqonda. Thembela kubuchule bakho, kwaye ungaze woyike ukuthatha umngcipheko. Ndiya kuba secaleni kwakho, ndikuvuyise kumanyathelo onke endlela.
Ungaze ukulibale ukubaluleka kobubele novelwano. Baphathe ngothando nangentlonelo abanye, kuba amandla okwenene axhomekeke kuvelwano. Yiba sisibane sokukhanya kwihlabathi elinokuthi ngamanye amaxesha uzive limnyama, kwaye ungaze uwajongele phantsi amandla egama elinobubele okanye umqondiso.
Mntwana wam, intliziyo yam iphuphuma likratshi xa ndibona lo mntu usiba nguye. Ububele bakho, ukomelela, kunye nokuzimisela kuyandikhuthaza yonke imihla. Ndisikelelekile ngokuba ngumama wakho, yaye ndiya kusoloko ndiluxabisa umanyano olungaqhawukiyo esinalo.
Yazi nokuba ubomi bukubeke phi, ungahlala uthembele kuthando lwam nenkxaso yam. Iingalo zam ziya kuhlala zivulekele ukukuwola, kwaye intliziyo yam iya kuhlala iyindawo ekhuselekileyo onokuthi ubuyele kuyo.
Enkosi ngokuba ngumphefumlo omhle onguye. Uzise uvuyo olungathethekiyo ebomini bam, kwaye ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngelungelo lokuba ngumama wakho. Yanga uhambo lwakho lungazaliswa luthando, ulonwabo, kunye namathuba angenasiphelo.
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Sithini isicatshulwa sothando lukamama kubantwana bakhe?
Uthando lukamama kubantwana bakhe alunakulinganiswa kwaye alunamiqathango. Luthando olungenamida yaye lusoloko lungumthombo wenkxaso nentuthuzelo. Nazi ezinye iingcaphulo ezichukumisayo ezithatha eyona nto iphambili yothando lukamama:
- 'Uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alufani nanto yanto ehlabathini. Aluwazi umthetho, alusizana, lubeka imihla yonke into kwaye lutyumza ngokungenalusini konke okumiyo endleleni yalo.' - Agatha Christie
- 'Uthando lukamama luxolo. Akuyomfuneko ukuba ifunyanwe, ayifanelekanga.' - UErich Fromm
- 'Uthando lukamama lufana nesibane, olukhanyisa ikamva kodwa lubonakaliswa nakwixesha elidluleyo ngomthi weenkumbulo ezimnandi.' - Honore de Balzac
- 'Uthando lukamama sisibaso esenza ukuba umntu oqhelekileyo enze izinto ezingenakwenzeka.' - UMarion C. Garretty
- 'Uthando lukamama lolona thando lubalaseleyo.' -Whitney Houston
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ngobunzulu obumangalisayo kunye nokomelela kothando lukamama kubantwana bakhe. Luthando olungagungqiyo noluhlala luhleli, yaye kuyintsikelelo ngokwenene ukuba namava.
Luluphi ulwalamano olukhethekileyo phakathi kukamama nomntwana?
Iqhina phakathi kukamama nomntwana lolona lwalamano lunzulu nolukhethekileyo olukhoyo. Luqhagamshelo oluqala kumzuzu wokukhawulwa kwaye luqhubeke lukhula ubomi bonke. Olu manyano lukhethekileyo lwakhiwe phezu kothando, ukuthembana, kunye nenkxaso engenamiqathango.
Uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alufani nezinye. Luthando olungazingciyo nolungagungqiyo, olusoloko lubeka iimfuno zomntwana ngaphambi kwezakhe. Uthando lukamama lungumthombo wentuthuzelo, amandla nokhokelo, lunikela imvakalelo yonqabiseko nozinzo kubomi bomntwana.
Iqhina phakathi kukamama nomntwana likwaphawulwa yimvakalelo enzulu yokuthembana. Umntwana uyazi ukuba unokuhlala ethembele kunina ukuba amncede, aphulaphule iingxaki zakhe, aze amnike ulwalathiso namacebiso. Oku kuthembana kwenza isiseko solwalamano olomeleleyo noluhlala luhleli.
Ngaphezu koko, iqhina phakathi kukamama nomntwana liphawulwa ngenkxaso engenamiqathango. Umama uhlala ekhona ukuze akhuthaze umntwana wakhe, abhiyozele impumelelo yakhe, kwaye amthuthuzele ngamaxesha anzima. Le nkxaso ingagungqiyo ifaka imvakalelo yokuzithemba kunye nokomelela emntwaneni, eyazi ukuba unomntu okholelwa kuye ngaphandle kwemiqathango.
Ukongezelela kuthando, ukuthembana nenkxaso, iqhina elikhethekileyo phakathi kukamama nomntwana likwaphawulwa lunxibelelwano olunzulu ngokweemvakalelo. Umama uyamqonda umntwana wakhe kwinqanaba ekungekho mntu unokuliqonda. Uyawazi amathemba, amaphupha, uloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki kwabo. Olu nxulumano lweemvakalelo luvumela umama ukuba anikele ngothando nenkxaso efunwa ngumntwana wakhe, kwanangaphambi kokuba akwazi ukuyichaza ngokwakhe.
Lilonke, iqhina elikhethekileyo phakathi kukamama nomntwana lulwalamano olungcwele nolungenakuthelekiswa nanto. Liqhina elakhelwe phezu kothando, ukuthembana, inkxaso, kunye noqhagamshelwano olunzulu ngokweemvakalelo. Lumanyano oluyila luze luphembelele ubomi bomntwana ngeendlela ezininzi, noluqhubeka lukhula yaye lukhula njengoko besenza.
Uluchaza njani uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe?
Uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alunakuchazwa. Lumanyano oluhamba ngaphaya kwamagama kwaye lugqithise naluphi na ulwimi. Luthando olunyulu, olungenamiqathango, nolungazingciyo. Uthando lukamama lusisibane esikhokelayo, olusoloko lukho ukuze luxhase kwaye lukhusele umntwana wakhe.
Luthando oluviwa kuko konke ukwanga, ukwanga ngakunye, nakuko konke ukubanjwa okuthambileyo. Luthando olubonakala ngokuzincama kwakhe, xa elala ebusuku, neenyembezi aziphalazayo. Uthando lukamama alugungqi, alupheli, kwaye alunasiphelo.
Luthando oluviwa kubushushu bokwangiwa kwakhe, isandi sokuhleka kwakhe, kunye nentuthuzelo yobukho bakhe. Luthando olubonakala kwiinkumbulo ezenziweyo, izifundo ezifundiswayo, kunye nemilinganiselo emiliselweyo.
Uthando lukamama lungumthombo othe rhoqo wamandla nokhuthazo. Luthando olukhuthaza umntwana wakhe ukuba aphuphe kakhulu kwaye afikelele kwiinkwenkwezi. Luthando olukholelwayo kumntwana wakhe, nangona bengakholelwa kubo.
Luthando olunika indawo ekhuselekileyo ngamaxesha esiphithiphithi kunye negxalaba lokungqiyama ngamaxesha obunzima. Luthando olupholisa amanxeba, oluthomalalisa iintlungu, nolunyanga iintliziyo ezaphukileyo. Uthando lukamama lunamandla anamandla okuphilisa nokuguqula.
Amazwi ewodwa akanakubuchaza ubunzulu nobukhulu bothando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe. Luthando oluviwa entliziyweni, emphefumlweni, nakuwo wonke umthambo wobuntu bakhe. Luthando olungunaphakade nolungunaphakade.
Uthando lukamama sisipho ngokwenene, yintsikelelo engaphaya komlinganiselo. Luthando olubumba ubomi bomntwana, luxonxe isimilo sakhe, luphembelele uhambo lwakhe. Luthando oluxatyiswayo noluxatyisiweyo, uthando olungasikelwanga mda.
Ngoko, uluchaza njani uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe? Awunakukwazi. Luthando olungenakuchazwa, olungenakuchazwa. Luthando olunokuviwa kuphela kwaye lube namava emazantsi entliziyo.
Sithini isicatshulwa malunga nobudlelwane phakathi kukamama nentombi?
Olunye lolona qhina luhle ehlabathini luphakathi komama nentombi yakhe. Liqhina elizaliswe luthando, inkxaso nokuqondana. Oomama kunye neentombi babelana ngoqhagamshelwano olulodwa olungafaniyo nolunye ubudlelwane. Lunxulumano olwakheka ukususela ekuzalweni kwentombi kwaye iyaqhubeka ikhula ngamandla ngosuku ngalunye oludlulayo.
Umama ngumntu wokuqala intombi ejonge kuye, umzekelo wakhe, kunye nomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni. Ukho ukuze amkhokele, amthuthuzele, aze amomeleze. Uthando lukamama alunamiqathango kwaye alunamida. Luthando olungenasiphelo nolungenasiphelo.
Ngokufanayo, intombi liqhayiya novuyo lukamama. Uyimbonakaliso yothando lukanina, amandla, nokomelela kwakhe. Intombi izisa ukukhanya kunye nolonwabo ebomini bukanina, kwaye iqhina labo alinakuqhawuka.
Iqhina eliphakathi komama nentombi alikho elinye. Lumanyano olwakhelwe ekuthembaneni, ekunyanisekeni nasekuqondeni ngokunzulu omnye komnye. Babelana ngeemfihlo, amaphupha kunye namathemba. Bahleka kunye, balile kunye, kwaye bayaxhasana kumahla-ndinyuka obomi.
Njengomama nentombi, batyhutyha ubomi bebambene ngesandla, bejongene nemiceli mngeni kunye kwaye babhiyozela uloyiso kunye. Bangabahlobo abakhulu bomnye nomnye kunye negxalaba lokungqiyama. Ulwalamano lwabo lungumthombo wamandla nentuthuzelo.
Kudla ngokuthiwa intombi ngumhlobo kamama osenyongweni. Babelana ngoqhagamshelwano olukhethekileyo olungenakubekwa ngamagama. Iqhina labo bubutyebi obufanele buxatyiswe yaye bukhuliswe.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uyawathandabuza amandla amaqhina phakathi kukamama nentombi, khumbula ukuba liqhina elingenakophulwa, elingenamiqathango nelingunaphakade. Liqhina elizaliswe luthando, inkxaso, namathuba angenasiphelo. Yixabise, uyibhiyozele, kwaye ubambelele kuyo ngentliziyo yakho yonke.
Uthando olungenasiphelo: Iingcaphuno ezingenamiqathango zoonyana neentombi
Ukuba nonyana okanye intombi yintsikelelo engaphaya komlinganiselo. Uthando phakathi komzali nomntwana alunamiqathango kwaye luhlala luhleli. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezichukumisayo ezithatha ubunzulu bolu thando lungenasiphelo:
1. 'Unyana luthando oluhlala ubomi bonke, intombi luvuyo olungenakuchazwa.'
2. 'Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uneminyaka emingaphi, uya kuhlala uyinkwenkwe / intombi yam encinci, kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndikhona ngenxa yakho.'
3. 'Ukuba ngumzali wakho lelona wonga nelungelo elikhulu. Ndihlala ndinombulelo ngothando oluzisa ebomini bam.'
4. 'Nguwe isizathu sokuba ndincume, ndihleke, nesizathu sokuba ndibe nelunda ngokuba ngumzali.'
5. 'Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubomi bukusa phi, khumbula ukuba uthando lwam kuwe alunasiphelo kwaye alugungqi.'
6. 'Ukuba nawe njengonyana/intombi yam ibe yeyona nto imnandi ebomini bam. Andinakuyitshintshisa ngayo nantoni na esehlabathini.'
7. 'Ulilanga lam, ukukhanya kwam kwenyanga, nayo yonke into ephakathi. Ndikuthanda ngaphezu kokuba amazwi anokuchazwa.'
8. 'Ndisenokungasoloko ndinawo amazwi afanelekileyo okuthetha, kodwa yazi ukuba uthando lwam ngawe luhlala luhleli yaye aluguquki.'
9. 'Uyeyona mpumelelo yam inkulu, iqhayiya lam novuyo lwam. Ndinethamsanqa lokuba nawe njengonyana/intombi yam.'
10. 'Akukho nto unokuyenza okanye ungayithetha enokwenza ukuba ndikuthande kancinci. Uthando lwam kuwe alunamiqathango.'
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukukhohlela kwekennel kusosulela emva kwee-antibiotics
Ezi zicatshulwa zisisikhumbuzo sobudlelwane obungaqhawukiyo phakathi komzali nomntwana. Zisebenza njengobungqina bothando oluhlala luhleli phakathi koonyana neentombi nabazali babo.
Yintoni isicatshulwa esihle sonyana nentombi?
Ukuba ngumzali kuyintsikelelo, kwaye ukuba nonyana okanye intombi sisipho esizisa ulonwabo nothando olungenakulinganiswa ebomini bethu. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezintle ezivakalisa ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo phakathi komzali kunye nonyana okanye intombi yakhe:
- 'Unyana liqhayiya likanina, intombi luvuyo lukayise.'
- 'Kunyana wam: ulilanga lam, uvuyo lwam, nesizathu sokuba ndincume yonke imihla.'
- 'Intombi yintwazana ekhula ibe ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni.'
- 'Oonyana basenokukhula babe ngamadoda, kodwa baya kuhlala bengamakhwenkwana onina.'
- 'Ukuba nentombi kuthetha ukuba nenxalenye yentliziyo yakho ehamba ngaphandle komzimba wakho.'
- 'Kwintombi yam: womelele, umhle, kwaye uyakwazi ukuphumeza nantoni na ozimisele ukuyenza.'
- 'Unyana luthando oluhlala ubomi bakhe bonke, yaye intombi luthando olungatshitshiyo.'
- 'Uthando phakathi komzali nomntwana lungunaphakade kwaye alunamiqathango.'
Ezi zicatshulwa zibamba uthando olunzulu kunye noqhagamshelwano olukhoyo phakathi komzali kunye nonyana okanye intombi yakhe. Basebenza njengesikhumbuzo sebhondi ekhethekileyo eya kuhlala ixatyiswa kwaye ibhiyozelwa.
Sithini isicatshulwa sothando olungagungqiyo kunyana?
Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe alunamiqathango. Luthando olungenamida, olungasikelwanga mda, nolulindeleyo. Luthando olunyulu, olungazingciyo noluhlala luhleli. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezichukumisayo ezithatha undoqo wothando olungagungqiyo lukamama kunyana wakhe:
- 'Unyana likratshi lomama kunye novuyo, impumelelo yakhe enkulu kunye nomthombo wothando olungenammiselo.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe alufani nalunye. Luthando olubukhali, olukhuselayo nolungagungqiyo.'
- 'Unyana usenokuba mkhulu emathangeni kanina, kodwa akanakuze ayikhuphe entliziyweni yakhe.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe liqhina elingenakophulwa kwanawona maxesha anzima.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe sisikhanyiso esikhokelayo, isibane sethemba nomthombo wamandla.'
- 'Unyana uya kuhlala eyinkwenkwana kanina, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umdala kangakanani okanye uya kude kangakanani.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe luthando olungazi mida kwaye ludlula yonke imiqobo.'
- 'Unyana bubutyebi bukamama, esona sipho sakhe sikhulu, novuyo lwakhe lokugqibela.'
- 'Uthando lukamama ngonyana wakhe lufana nebali elingapheliyo, elizaliswe luthando, intsini neenkumbulo.'
- 'Unyana uzisa ilanga kubomi bukanina, uzalise imihla yakhe ngothando, ngentsini nangolonwabo.'
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ngothando olungagungqiyo olukhoyo phakathi kukamama nonyana wakhe. Zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo esihle seqhina elikhethekileyo ekwabelwana ngalo phakathi kukamama nomntwana wakhe.
Imiyalezo esuka entliziyweni: Amagama akhuthazayo asuka kuMama aye kuMntwana
Ubumama luhambo oluzaliswe luthando, uvuyo, kunye nenkxaso engapheliyo. Oomama banobuchule obukhethekileyo bokukhuthaza nokukhuthaza abantwana babo, bebanika amandla nokuzithemba ukuze boyise nawuphi na umngeni. Nantsi eminye imiyalezo esuka koomama isiya ebantwaneni babo, ibakhumbuza ngothando lwabo olungagungqiyo kunye nenkolelo engagungqiyo kwizakhono zabo.
1. 'Uyakwazi ukuphumeza nantoni na ozimisele kuyo. Zikholelwe uze unganikezeli.' |
2. 'Khumbula ukuba ukungaphumeleli akusosiphelo, kodwa linyathelo lokukhokelela empumelelweni. Funda kwiimpazamo zakho uze uqhubeke usiya phambili.' |
3. 'Uneseti eyodwa yeetalente nobuchule obukwenza ube wodwa. Zamkele kwaye uzisebenzise ukwenza impembelelo entle kwihlabathi.' |
4. 'Ubomi buzaliswe ngamahla-ndinyuka, kodwa ndiya kuhlala ndilapha ukuze ndikuxhase. Anikhe wedwa kuhambo lwakho.' |
5 Nyameka kuwe ngamaxesha onke, uyilandele intliziyo yakho; Ubunyani bakho bukwenza ukhanye.' |
6. 'Kholwa kumandla obubele novelwano. Yiba namandla okulunga ehlabathini kwaye usasaze uthando naphi na apho uya khona.' |
7. 'Nokuba yeyiphi na imiceli mngeni ojongene nayo, khumbula ukuba ndingoyena mntu uphambili kuwe. Ndiyakholelwa kuwe ngaphezu kokuba unokucinga.' |
8. 'Unesibindi kunokuba ucinga, womelele kunokuba uyazi, kwaye ukrelekrele kunokuba ucinga. Zithembe nobuchule bakho.' |
9. 'Ubomi busenokungasoloko bulula, kodwa yimiceli-mngeni esenza sibe yile nto siyiyo. Bamkele kwaye ukhule kubo.' |
10. 'Ungoyena uvuyo lwam olukhulu kunye nesizathu solonwabo lwam. Ndiyazingca ngokuba ngumama wakho.' |
La mazwi okhuthazo avela kumama esiya kumntwana wakhe asisikhumbuzo sothando olungagungqiyo nenkxaso ekhoyo phakathi kweqhina lobumama. Bakhuthaza abantwana ukuba bakholelwe kubo, balandele amaphupha abo, kwaye bajongane nemiceli mngeni yobomi ngenkalipho kunye nokomelela.
Yeyiphi eyona nto ingcono umama acaphula yona ebantwaneni?
Uthando lukamama kubantwana bakhe alunamiqathango kwaye alunamida. Ukutyhubela imbali, oomama baye baba ngumthombo wothando, inkxaso nokhokelo kubantwana babo. Nazi izicatshulwa ezifudumez’ intliziyo ezibalaselisa iqhina elikhethekileyo phakathi komama nomntwana wakhe:
'Uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alufani nanto yanto ehlabathini. Aluwazi umthetho, alunasizi, luthanda izinto zonke kwaye lutyumza ngokungenalusini konke okume endleleni yalo.' - Agatha Christie
'Oomama babamba izandla zabantwana babo okwethutyana, kodwa iintliziyo zabo ngonaphakade.' -Akwaziwa
'Uthando lukamama alupheli, ludlulela ngaphaya kwamazwi nezimbo zomzimba. Luthando olungenamida noluhlala ubomi babo bonke.' -Akwaziwa
'Uthando lukamama sisibaso esenza ukuba umntu oqhelekileyo enze izinto ezingenakwenzeka.' - UMarion C. Garretty
'Umama ngoyena unokuthabatha indawo yabo bonke abanye kodwa indawo yakhe ekungekho bani unokuyithatha.' - Cardinal Mermillod
'Uthando lukamama lufana nesibane, olukhokela umntwana wakhe kwiinkqwithela zobomi kunye nokungaqiniseki.' -Akwaziwa
'Uthando lukamama sesona sipho sikhulu sinokufunyanwa ngumntwana. Luthando olukhulisa, olukhuselayo nolubumba ikamva lomntwana.' -Akwaziwa
'Uthando lukamama liqhina elingenako ukuqhawuka. Luthando olunyulu, olungazingciyo nolungagungqiyo.' -Akwaziwa
'Ukuba ngumama akubhekiseli kwinto oye wancama ukuba nomntwana, kodwa oko uye wakuzuza ngokuba naye.' -Akwaziwa
'Uthando lukamama yintliziyo yosapho. Yiglu egcina wonke umntu kunye.' -Akwaziwa
Ezi zicatshulwa zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sothando olukhulu nokuzinikela oomama abanako kubantwana babo. Babonisa ukubaluleka kwendima kamama ekubumbeni nasekukhuliseni ubomi bomntwana wakhe.
Khumbula ukuxabisa nokuxabisa umama wakho ngothando nokuzincama akwenzele kona.
Yintoni isicatshulwa esichukumisayo kwiintombi ezivela kumama?
Intombi yintombazana encinci ekhula ibe ngumhlobo.
Ukuba nentombi kuthetha ukuba nomhlobo wanaphakade.
Intombi yimbonakaliso yothando lukanina, amandla kunye nobuhle.
Akukho qhina lomelele ngaphezu kothando phakathi kukamama nentombi yakhe.
Intombi bubutyebi obuzisa uvuyo nolonwabo entliziyweni kanina.
Intombi sisipho esihlala sinikela, sigcwalisa ubomi bethu ngothando kunye nokuhleka.
Ukuba ngumama entombini lilungelo nentsikelelo endiya kuyixabisa ngonaphakade.
Ntombi ethandekayo, uliqhayiya lam kunye novuyo lwam, kwaye ndiyabulela yonke imihla ukuba nawe ebomini bam.
Nokuba umdala kangakanani, uya kuhlala uyintombazana yam encinci, kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndilapha ukuze ndikuthande kwaye ndikuxhase.
Ukuba nentombi kufana nokuba neqhekeza lentliziyo yam elihamba lijikeleza ngaphandle komzimba wam.
iziselo zokwenza nge-curacao eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka
Ntombi yam, usisibane sobomi bam nesizathu soncumo lwam. Ndikuthanda ngaphezu kokuba amazwi anokuthetha.
Umama umkhuthaza njani umntwana wakhe?
Umama unamandla akhethekileyo okukhuthaza umntwana wakhe ngeendlela ezininzi. Ngothando lwakhe, isikhokelo, kunye nenkxaso engagungqiyo, ukhulisa amaphupha omntwana wakhe kwaye uyabakhuthaza ukuba bafikelele ezinkwenkwezini.
Umama ukhuthaza umntwana wakhe ngokuba ngumthombo othe rhoqo wamandla nokomelela. Ubabonisa ukuba enoba bajamelene naziphi na iingxaki, banokuyoyisa ngokuzimisela nangokuzingisa. Amava akhe nobulumko bakhe baba sisikhanyiso esikhokelayo kumntwana wakhe, ebafundisa izifundo ezibalulekileyo zobomi.
Ngokuba ngumzekelo, umama ukhuthaza umntwana wakhe ukuba abe ngoyena mzekelo ubalaseleyo. Ubamisela umzekelo omhle, ebabonisa ukubaluleka kobubele, imfesane nokunyaniseka. Izenzo zakhe zithetha ngaphezu kwamazwi, yaye umntwana wakhe ufunda ukuxelisa iimpawu zakhe ezintle.
Umama ukwamkhuthaza umntwana wakhe ngokumfundisa ukuba azikholelwe kwaye azithembe. Uyakholelwa kubuchule bomntwana wakhe kwaye ubakhuthaza ukuba bazikholelwe. Ngamazwi akhe enkuthazo kunye nendumiso, ukhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba balandele iminqweno yabo.
Ngaphaya koko, inkxaso engagungqiyo kamama nothando olungagungqiyo lukhuthaza umntwana wakhe ukuba asoloko ezabalazela ukuba mkhulu. Ubhiyozela impumelelo yabo, nokuba inkulu okanye incinci kangakanani na, kwaye uyabanceda bafunde kwiintsilelo zabo. Ubukho bakhe rhoqo kunye nenkuthazo kudala indawo ekhuselekileyo neyondlayo ukuze umntwana wakhe akhule kwaye achume.
Ukuqukumbela, ukuphefumlelwa kukamama kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhula komntwana. Ngothando lwakhe, isikhokelo, kunye nenkxaso engagungqiyo, ubethelela imilinganiselo ebalulekileyo, ukhuthaza ukuzikholelwa, kwaye ukhuthaza umntwana wakhe ukuba afikelele kumaphupha abo. Impembelelo kamama ixabiseke ngokwenene kwaye ibumba uhambo lomntwana wakhe olusingise kwikamva eliqaqambileyo nelinempumelelo.
Umbuzo kunye nempendulo:
Ngaba uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alunamida?
Uthando lukamama ngomntwana wakhe alunamda kuba lunyulu kwaye alunamiqathango. Luthando oludlula yonke imiqobo nemingeni. Umama uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze akhusele aze anyamekele umntwana wakhe, encama iimfuno neminqweno yakhe. Uthando lukamama alunakuzingca yaye alugungqi, lusoloko lubeka impilo-ntle yomntwana wakhe ngaphezu kolwakhe.
Kutheni uthando lukamama luthelekiswa nolunye?
Uthando lukamama alufani nolunye kuba lukhethekile kwaye alunakulinganiswa nanto. Luthando olungenamiqathango, olunyulu, nolungazingciyo. Uthando lukamama lolwethuku, luzizela nje kwaye alusebenzi. Uthando lukamama alunasiphelo, alunamida okanye iimeko. Luthando olusoloko lukho, luxhasa, lukhulisa, lukhokele.
Uthando lukamama lumenza njani umntu oqhelekileyo enze izinto ezingenakwenzeka?
Uthando lukamama lungamandla anokwenza umntu oqhelekileyo enze izinto ezingenakwenzeka. Inika amandla, inkuthazo, kunye nempembelelo. Xa umntu esazi ukuba uyathandwa ngaphandle kwemiqathango ngumama wakhe, uziva exhotyisiwe kwaye ekwazi ukuphumeza izinto ezinkulu. Uthando lukamama lunika umntwana wakhe ukuzithemba ukoyisa imiqobo, abeke umngcipheko, aze afikelele kumaphupha akhe.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba umama athabathe indawo yabo bonke abanye?
Xa kusithiwa umama unokuthatha indawo yabo bonke abanye, loo nto ithetha ukuba uthando lukamama alunakuthathelwa indawo. Akakho omnye umntu onokunikela inqanaba elifanayo lenkathalo, inkxaso, nokuqonda njengomama. Indima kamama yodwa kwaye ayinakuzaliswa ngomnye umntu. Ngoyena umazi kakuhle umntwana wakhe, osoloko ekulungele ukumamela, ukuthuthuzela nokukhokela. Uthando lukamama luhlala lukhona ebomini bomntu, lunika imvakalelo yokhuseleko kunye nokuba yeyabanye.
