Ukucwangcisa umsitho womtshato wesini esifanayo kunokufuna ukucinga kancinci 'ngaphandle kwebhokisi. Eli lixesha elihle lokusebenzisa ubuchule bakho kunye nokuphucula kwezinye zezinto ezithandekayoizithethe zomtshatoezilapha phandle. Ukusuka kwinkqubo yokuqhubela phambili ukuya kuphumla, unokwenza ifayileumsitho omhleoko kubonisa ngokwenyani amaxabiso kunye nothando owabelana ngalo nomntu othandana naye.
Yintoni ekufuneka uyiqukile kumsitho wakho
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule xa ucwangcisa umsitho wakho womtshato wesini gay kukuba kufuneka ubonakalise wena kunye nomlingane wakho. Ngaphandle kwezifungo, akukho nanye yezinto zomtshato wesintu ekufuneka ukuba ube yinxalenye yosuku lwakho olukhulu; kuxhomekeke kuwe. Nokuba ujonga iskripthi somsitho wobungqingili okanye izifungo zomtshato zesini esifanelekileyo, uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abathandanayo bakhetha umsitho osebenzisa umtshato wesintu njengendawo yokwenza ubuchule.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Iingcamango zeNkqubo yoMtshato
- Iingcamango zomtshato zasehlotyeni
- Imibono Yomtshato Omtsha yoNyaka oMtsha
Inkqubo
Inkqubo yokutshata yinxalenye yomtshato ebandakanya ukuhamba ngendlela. Eli lithuba elonwabisayo lokwenza umnyango, kwaye lixesha elifanelekileyo lokubandakanya iintsapho zakho kusuku lwakho olukhethekileyo. Kwimibhiyozo yesini efanayo, kukho iindlela ezimbalwa onokufuna ukusondela kuzo:
- Omabini amaqabane ahamba ngendlela okanye kunye nomphathi.
- Elinye iqabane lihamba kuqala, likhatshwa ngomnye okanye bobabini abazali. Elinye iqabane kunye nosapho lwakhe lulandela.
- Elinye iqabane liza nomntu ophetheyo, njengasemtshatweni wendabuko wesini esahlukileyo, kwaye elinye iqabane liyalandela.
- Endaweni yendlela enye, unezimbini okanye ezintathu. Nobabini niyasondela ngaxeshanye, kunye okanye ngaphandle kweentsapho zakho.
Ukucela okanye ukubingelela
Emva kokuba nobabini nifikelele ngaphambili kwendlela, umntu enisebenza naye anganinika isibongozo okanye abulise iindwendwe. Ukuba unenkolo, oku kungathathauhlobo lomthandazo. Ukuba akunjalo, yindlela entle yokukhaba izinto kwaye wenze wonke umntu azive amkelekile kwaye afakiwe. Igosa lakho linokuba nemibono malunga nento elifuna ukuyithetha, kodwa unokukhetha enye yezi zilandelayo:
- 'Wamkelekile kumtshato we (igama) kunye (negama). Silapha namhlanje ukubhiyozela uthando olungapheliyo lwala madoda mabini (okanye abafazi). '
- 'Ndijoyine ekubhiyozeleni nasekuboneni uthando kunye nokuzinikela ekwabelwana ngako ngaba bafazi babini (okanye amadoda) namhlanje.'
- 'Sihlanganisene apha namhlanje ukuzokubona umtshato wabo babini kunye nokubhiyozela uthando ababelana ngalo.'
Ufundo
Ukufunda okufutshane okanye ezimbini yenye indlela elungileyo yokubandakanya abahlobo kunye nosapho kumsitho wakho. Izibini ezininzi zikhetha ukuba nabantakwabo, abazali, okanye abahlobo abakhethekileyo bafunde iivesi ezibalulekileyo ngeli xesha lomtshato. Ukuba unenkolo, le isenokuba sisicatshulwa esivela kwiTorah, eBhayibhileni, okanye kolunye uhlobo lwenkolo. Ukuba ukhetha umtshato wasemhlabeni, unokukhetha into kumbhali oyintandokazi okanye kwimbongi. Oku kufundwa kunokubamba umoya womsitho wakho:
- Umbongo weAnactoria NguSappho wenza ufundo oluhle kumsitho womtshato wabasetyhini.
- IArbor nguSappho lukhetho oluhle kakhulu kumtshato wesini.
- Uhamba ngobuhle NguGeorge Gordon, u-Lord Byron lolunye ukhetho olukhulu kwabafazi ababini abazinikeleyo ubomi babo bonke.
- Uthando Lwam Lokwenene Lunentliziyo Yam Ngu Sir Sir Phillip uSydney unokunceda isibini esithandanayo ukubonisa uthando lwabo.
Izibhambathiso zomtshato omnye
Wena kunye nomntu othandana naye unokukhetha ukubhala izifungo zakho, bambelela kwiizithembiso zomtshato zesintu, okanye wenze into phakathi. Izibhambathiso zezona zinto zibalulekileyo kumsitho wakho, kuba kulapho wena neqabane lakho nenza ukuzibophelela kubomi bonke. Kubalulekile ukuba izibhambathiso zakho zibonise into onokuyithanda ngokuzinikela, ke licebo elihle ukuba uhlale phantsi kunye uze nezimvo ezimbalwa. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa onokuzijonga:
- 'Mna, (igama), ndikuthabatha, (igama), ukuba ube liqabane lam lobomi (okanye umfazi okanye umyeni). Ndizokuxhasa, ndikuhloniphe, kwaye ndikwazise ngazo zonke iimeko esinokujamelana nazo, kwaye andisoze ndiyeke ukubhiyozela uthando lwethu. '
- Ngale mini ndizibophelela kuwe. Ndiyathembisa ukubakhona ngamaxesha anzima, ukubhiyozela kunye nani ngamaxesha olonwabo, kwaye ndisebenze nani ngawo onke amaxesha ukugcina impilo yomtshato wethu. '
- 'Namhlanje, ndikuthabatha ube liqabane lam. Ndiyathembisa ukuphakamisa ubuqu kunye nokulingana kwemimoya yethu, sabelane ngovuyo nosizi lwethu, sikukhathalele ngamaxesha okugula, kwaye sikuthande nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bethu. '
Ukutshintshwa kweeRingi
Emva kokuba uthethileizibhambathiso zakho, wena njengegosa liya kukukhokelaukutshintshiselana imisesaneokanye ezinye iimpawu zothando lwakho. Emva kokuba utyibilikise amakhonkco eminweni yomnye nomnye, wena mphathi uya kukwazisa kwiindwendwe njengesibini esitshatileyo.
inkangeleko yothando emehlweni endoda
Ukiss
Enye into ebalulekileyo kulo msitho ukwanga. Okwangoku, utshatile ngokusemthethweni, ke lixesha lokuba ubonise uthando lwakho.
Ixesha lokuphumla
Emva kokumanga, uya kubuyela ezantsi kunye. Wonke umntu uza kuqhwaba izandla ancume, kwaye umfoti wakho angathwebula iifoto ezintle nezithandekayo zeqabane lakho. Umsitho wakho uphelile, kwaye lixesha lokuba ubhiyozele kulwamkelo.
Izixhobo zokuCwangcisa umsitho wakho woMtshato weSini esifanayo
Kukho inani lezixhobo ezibalaseleyo ezinokuthi zifike ngokufanelekileyo njengoko uceba umtshato wakho:
- Umbutho woluntu inikeza iingcamango malunga nento oyithethayo ngexesha leendawo ezahlukeneyo zesini esifanayo.
- Imitshato yamaGay unezimvo ezininzi ezintle kuyo yonke imiba yomsitho womtshato wakho.
- Ingcaciso inecandelo kwimitshato yamafanasini kunye neefoto kunye nolwazi malunga neminyhadala yokwenyani.
- Uthando kunye nekratshi icacisa imizekelo yemizekelo yeenkolo ezininzi eziphambili, kubandakanya ubuhedeni, ubuKristu, ubuBuddha, kunye nobuJuda.
Ukwamkelwa ngokusemthethweni komtshato wesini esinye
UKUYA Nge-26 kaJuni 2015 isigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo uwenze umbuzo wokwamkelwa ngokusemthethweni komtshato wesini esifanayo ongangxengwanga eUnited States of America. Nangona kunjalo, akunjalo kuwo onke amazwe. Yabona Inkululeko yokutshata ngolwazi malunga namazwe apho ukulingana komtshato kungumthetho welizwe.
Usuku lokukhunjulwa
Nokuba ukhetha ukubandakanya kumsitho wakho, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba umtshato wakho ngumbhiyozo wothando phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Ngethuba nje olo thando lukhona kumsitho wakho, usuku lwakho lomtshato luya kuba lusuku lokukhumbula.
